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Being the Best, A Change for a Rest, What is your Quest?

Being the Best, A Change for a Rest, What is your Quest?

Posted on July 31, 2021August 3, 2021 by Sheela Hobden

Article exploring perfectionism, our sense of identity and how we can question our own thoughts to find the best answers. Summer musings!

Posted in ArticlesTagged coaching, Identity, Perfectionism

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